I don’t make resolutions, especially at the beginning of the year. You might ask why. Because it is a set-up for failure. And failure leads to self-loathing, which can lead to depression and take a toll on your self-esteem. Furthermore, most resolutions are unrealistic and unattainable to begin with.
Now you may be saying to yourself, “but there are things I want to change, so I need to make a resolution”. Actually, I have a better idea. Take a look at the things in your life that ARE working first. What needs to stay the same? Then, look at the things in your life that aren’t working. Maybe there are things that don’t seem to get better no matter how hard you try. What are these things?
Consider the fact that if you’ve been trying and trying to change something (or someone), and it just never seems to work, maybe you need to try something different. As they say, “If you keep doing what you always do, you’ll keep getting what you always get.” Think about it. If you keep nagging your husband, but he never takes out the trash, keep nagging and he will keep not doing it. You need to try something different. Maybe stop nagging, and stop doing it for him. Yes, it’s gross, and it may overflow for a few days, but eventually, he will take it out.
This same notion applies to areas of your own life. Looking for a new job and not having success? Maybe it’s time to look at HOW you’re looking, and try something different. Trying to reduce stress but find that yoga doesn’t work for you? Try something different, such as a bath, a walk, a warm beverage. Waiting for your partner to change so your relationship will improve? He won’t..but YOU can. Sounds crazy, but you can help improve your relationship all on your own, just by doing something different. Really.
So, the point that I’m really trying to make here is don’t waste your time making a resolution. Simply resolving to “lose weight” or “have a better marriage” is empty and meaningless. Rather, spend some time doing a self-evaluation, and make a change. Any day of the year. You don’t have to wait for a new year.
Happy New Year everyone, and may your year be full of positive change.